Many young people today have only heard of Morse code from the movies where a soldier being held prisoner is sending a message between prison cells to his fellow captives. At one time, it was the primary means of communication over long distances.
Invented by Samuel Morse, the telegraph box would transmit a series of on-off tones, lights, or clicks to another box which were then decoded by the listener. It was a simple, yet practical way of communication. Later, voice transmission was invented and made mainstream by Alexander Bell.
Today, we talk through thin electronic devices across microwaves to towers which then carry our voice to other towers that transmit them seamlessly to another thin electronic device. Where will we be in another ten, twenty, or even one hundred years? Who knows, but at the root of it all, is communication.
Tonight’s blog is a little delayed because the Mrs. and I were attending our small group where we began a series on marriage. It may prove to be a challenging few weeks while we explore ways to understand each other and strengthen our relationship. One of the key topics that all the advice will center around, is communication.
I’ll admit, as a man, sometimes it feels like the Mrs. is speaking to me in Morse code and I need an interpreter to help me understand the signals being sent. What I’m hearing may seem like nothing more than a bunch of clicks. Or, what I’m seeing may seem like no more than flashing lights without any meaning.
The key will be for me, and her, to decipher those clicks and flashing lights in a way that we not only understand them but respect the other who is sending them. It’s one thing to say something, but how we say it, makes all the difference in the world.
I chuckle sometimes when I hear a young couple ‘discussing things’ only to realize that neither one of them really understood the other. Even more mature couples wrestle with this. The messages are being sent, but what’s being received is something else than what was intended. It’s as though, between those two boxes, something interfered with the signal, added to it, changed it around, and what was received was the opposite of what was sent.
Texting is quite similar to Morse code. Sure, we try to improve our message with ‘Emoji’s’ and smiley faces, but when trying to send a text to express an emotion, nine times out of ten, it will be received the wrong way. Kids today text everything. It’s a wonder any true communication happens at all.
Once people were able to hear the voice of the other person, Morse code went away (except in cases like the military). Being able to hear the inflection of words, to feel the emotion in the tones used, and to know the joy, or anger, behind the words, takes it all to a new level of understanding.
The Mrs. and I have committed to working even harder at our communication. To get past the Morse code to find a deeper way of understanding each other. We certainly don’t discuss serious things over text messaging. But, being able to listen and receive more than just the words being said, will be key to helping our relationship grow even stronger.
If you’re struggling with receiving the messages being sent by others the way they were intended, rest assured, you’re not alone. It’s an issue we all deal with. Even in our relationship with God. We hear what we think He’s saying to us, but in the end, He was really saying something else.
I’ll be looking forward to sharing more with you on our progress as the Mrs. and I work on improving our ‘Morse code’ together. I’ll leave you tonight with a cute little clip below about communication from Everyone Loves Raymond.
Love always friends,
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