Just Hold On
Wouldn’t it be great to have one of those Titanic moments?... Well, not the ending. Just the part when they’re at the very top front of the boat, arms open wide, and the wind at their face, ecstatic and in love looking out over the sea ahead feeling like they’re flying.
It was as though all their past was behind them. They had freedom and security in their new love. Nothing else mattered. They were the center of their universe. It was a moment in time to be remembered forever and nothing could stop their love for each other. Ahh… fantasy. It’s great isn’t it?
What an escape from our day-to-day lives. To imagine being on a ship, sun setting, having found love in the most unexpected ways with someone you wouldn’t have imagined. It stirs that sentiment in all of us of times past, or present, when we felt that care-free love. The feeling of freedom. Being the center of our own universe.
Advertisers know all too well, if they can tie their product to that feeling, then they have a winner. People will buy it just to have a sense of that fantasy. Take the Rolls Royce hood ornament, for example, of a woman leaning into the wind with her arms spread behind her and her dress flowing in the wind. They named it, ‘The Spirit of Ecstasy’ to tie that sense of having attained it all if you’re driving that car. In some ways, financially at least, that may be true.
Magical moments do happen in our lives. Those moments of first love, or love found again, when nothing in the world mattered. Our emotions running wildly out of control and reason thrown to the wind. Yes, I’ve had some of those. Mainly with the Mrs. I wouldn’t trade anything in the world for them either.
Should we expect those moments every day? If we do, then we’ll be in for a world of hurt. It’s one of the primary reasons I can’t handle more than a few minutes of soap operas. Having watched them with my grandmother during the day when Mom worked, I learned to dislike them. The reason, they weren’t reality.
Every day someone was in love with someone else, someone was plotting an evil plan, or someone was acting so dramatically over-the-top, that I couldn’t help but laugh. Call me a realist, but life just doesn’t happen that way, and when it does, it’s far more painful, or joyful.
It’s ok to dream. It’s good to have hope. We should never give up on life or the thought that real love could come. But, after the ecstatic moments, real love is what’s left. And, that’s work.
Real love is commitment. It’s holding onto that railing when, in reality, you feel like jumping off. It’s putting the other person first, even if it means drowning in freezing water. It means being willing to give when you have nothing left to give. That, in the end, will bring a life of joy so much greater than that one moment of bliss.
Be encouraged today. Life may be hard. It may have thrown some curveballs at you and you may be feeling like there’s not much left. It’s at those times when, if you hold on and keep loving, that love will come back to you.
If you can make it through the storms, you may just find joy beyond that moment of bliss you felt long ago that you thought you’d never get back with that person who once was the center of your world. You may just find yourself flying again…
Love always friends,
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