There’s something powerful that happens to people when they feel appreciated. It’s as though a light comes on and their self-esteem was just raised by a few notches. It can turn a bad day into a good day and sadness into joy.
So many of us feel unappreciated. It’s as though we’re expected to perform at work, fulfill our duties at home, and maintain our social commitments but, when we fail at any of them, all we get are complaints. Life isn’t easy; that’s a fact.
One of the things I was raised to do is say please and thank you. It’s not complicated. It’s simply showing others respect and appreciation for who they are and what they do. Somehow, that common sense behavior has fallen by the side for some of society.
The culture of entitlement has engulfed many. When they don’t get what they think is coming to them, they throw a fit. Only the other day, one of the top tennis players in the world lost it on national television in a way that made them look childish. This sense of entitlement knows no social or racial boundaries.
Our marriages are being torn apart by this entitlement mentality as well. When one spouse feels unappreciated and taken for granted, they begin to act out in anger. When the other expects them to fulfill all their expectations and belittles them when they don’t, it’s a recipe for disaster.
Earlier in former relationship days, I got into an argument with my significant other about saying please and thank you. As I mentioned earlier, that was how I was raised, even with family. This person felt it was fine to say, ‘get me xyz out of the kitchen’ and not have to say thank you because it was understood that they appreciated it. Needless to say, I lost that one and ended up feeling very unappreciated in that relationship over time.
It may seem like a small thing but recognizing when someone makes an effort to do something for us means a lot to them. Are there those who live to be noticed doing nice things? Yes. But, that shouldn’t change how we express our appreciation.
When it gets right down to it, it’s an attitude of gratitude. Being thankful for others and for what they do. It may not even have anything to do with us. It may be that we recognize our spouse’s ability to help others. Or, we recognize our friend’s ability to do something we admire.
The first step to becoming better at showing appreciation is to look for things to appreciate in others. Personally, because I’m such an independent person, I am very humbled when others do something out of their way for me. Even though it’s not easy to receive, it makes it easier to appreciate others.
In my marriage to the Mrs., we make an effort every day to say thank you to each other and to tell each other what we appreciate. Yeah, at first it seemed like we were trying to butter each other up, but over time, it’s become something we both look for and need.
In the same way, in sales, telling customers I appreciate their time, patience, trust, and business goes a long way to building a strong bond with them.
So, today, I just want to say a big Thank YOU for taking the time to read this blog. I know time is valuable and the fact you’re reading it this far, humbles me. Thank you and I’ll keep sharing my heart to, hopefully, bless you in return...
Love always and thank you my friends!
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