What's Your Point? - Communication
It seems that today everyone in the national media, and even social media, has a point they’re trying to make. Whether it’s political, religious, or social. Even meaningless posts on social media carry a ‘point’ of some kind.
It’s for that reason that I’ve really backed off from sharing things on Facebook & Twitter that may seem controversial. For every person that agrees there’s another who disagrees. Whether I’m followed, liked, or shared has really become yesterday’s news.
Today, I only share my blog, a few funny videos, and the occasional quip about something (and the occasional ‘check-in’ with the Mrs. or travel). Everything else has really become white noise and gets lost in the flood of points being made out there. Sure, I’ll stand up for some issues if I feel it truly needs to be done. But, I stand up at the voting booth. Not on social media any more.
Speaking of this blog, some of you know, but the primary reason I started it, and why I continue it daily, is to share my heart and memories with my children who live apart from me. It’s my hope and desire that they’ll hear the real me and share some memories that they may never know. That’s my hope anyway…
In my Naval training days, one of my instructors had a way of getting us to be clear and accurate with our questions. She would tell us to, ‘Say what you mean and mean what you say.’ She was right. Too often, putting our thoughts into words is harder than it seems.
When it comes down to it, communication is what it’s all about. Sure, it’s easy to grandstand, and that’s easy to do on social media. It’s another thing to improve our interpersonal communications with those we love the most. Probably the biggest challenge in marriage is learning to communicate with each other in a way that each person feels understood, appreciated, and accepted.
The Mrs. and I are no strangers to the communication ‘missteps’. She is one to say something indirectly but ask me for something at the same time. I, on the other hand, tend to be too direct. Both have caused us challenges at times. I’ve met couples who can practically read each other’s minds and tend to finish each other’s sentences (not something I like BTW). It’s because they’ve grown to know, love, and understand each other.
While at CBN as a donor rep, I visited with a couple who were celebrating their 60th anniversary. He was a WWII hero and they still had a dynamic relationship. Without hesitation, the reason they shared for their success over the years was not only determination, but loving communication with each other.
It’s when we fall prey to insults, bitterness, passive-aggressive behavior, temper tantrums, and, my least favorite, the silent treatment, that communication breaks down. Without stepping back and starting over with a fresh slate of forgiveness and openness to change, it can be nearly impossible to repair.
The Mrs. and I are certainly not perfect in our communication, but, the one thing we do have is a mutual love for each other, trust, and a desire to make things right when they go ‘off track’. Not only that, our faith together is in harmony. That alone is the foundation of our relationship. Not the kind of faith that’s legalistic. No, we both realize how much we need Him in our lives and don’t burden the other with unrealistic expectations.
So today, here’s to opening the lines of communications if you’re facing challenges in a relationship. Here’s to not airing our dirty laundry on social media and spending quality time with each other to truly listen and find out what the other person’s ‘point’ is. Most of all, here’s to putting Him first in our relationships and asking Him to heal any of those past wounds to help give us a fresh start…
Wishing you all a blessed weekend ahead my friends,
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