Throughout most of my life, especially as I’ve aged, I’ve been one of those people who tries to weigh every option before making a decision. That’s a good thing when it comes to major financial decisions, health related decisions, and family related decisions. But, when it comes to whether to get chocolate or vanilla ice cream, well, then it’s only an invitation to get whopped by the Mrs. if I take too long.
No, I’m not that guy that takes ten minutes to choose what to order, while others are lining up behind him in the fast food restaurant, who everyone wants to give a piece of their minds. I’m like the guy who gets more set in his ways as he goes so that he doesn’t need to think about it. It’s just easier to have a couple choices ready and one you usually pick isn’t it?
Over the past several weeks, we’ve been upgrading our kitchen by adding in rustic boxcar wood for the countertops, a new beadboard backsplash, antique tins on the ceiling, and a porcelain farmer’s sink. It’s starting to look great (even though it’s taking longer than we’d hoped). I’m sure I’ll be sharing photos when it’s done too.
If you were to ask me who decided to put that kind of wood, choose that sink, pick out those tins, or what color to paint, I would have to say it has primarily been the Mrs. Not that I haven’t had input, I’d just rather her pick so that she will be happy with it. Would I have made the same design choices? Probably not. But, now that it’s coming together, I’m glad she did because my choices would have been much more generic with stone and who knows what.
Earlier today, our handyman asked me a question as to whether we should use some trim on one side of the cupboards. I thought to myself, ‘well, if I say no, then she’ll want it. If I say yes, she may say she didn’t want that there.’ So, I buckled up and made an executive decision despite the consequences and said, ‘Yes, that would be great’. When the Mrs. came back she liked the idea. I quickly wiped my forehead from the sweat since I picked that one right.
It may sound like I’ve lost my ‘Man Card’ to some, but when it comes to making choices around something I know means so much to the Mrs., I find that being humble and letting her have her way is the best thing. Now, my office, that’s my domain (mostly)…
Making choices can be difficult; even small ones. Being ‘indecisive’ can cripple us if we let it. Being too compulsive can also cripple us as we may make hasty decisions without thinking through all the consequences. Unfortunately, life is full of decisions and they only get more difficult. Hindsight may be 20/20, but it can also feel like a reminder that some choices we made weren’t the best. What I’ve found in my life are several things.
So, there you have it. Decision making isn’t easy is it? We all probably have some type of process that we’ve formulated over the years. If you can look back and see that it’s working, then it would be good to keep it. If you can look back and see where it’s not, then you may want to re-evaluate and try something new. Most of all, you can never lose by putting others, and God, first. We may not wind up having what we wanted for ourselves, but the reward of seeing others blessed is worth it. I’ll leave you tonight with a funny bit from Ellen talking about making decisions below.