Tradition… In life it keeps those things we cherish like our faith, our work, and our family culture, strong and continuing. It’s like the glue that keeps us all going. One of those small traditions the Mrs. and I have built into our relationship is Friday night, ‘Date Night’.
Growing up, Friday night was when, while in our 6 to10-year-old days, we would build the sheet tent forts in the living room and stay up watching tv shows like ‘Mannix’, ‘Streets of San Francisco’, and Hawaii Five-O’, while sacked out in sleeping bags on the floor. In our teens, it was our traditional ‘Pizza Night’ when we knew we were going to have some great food and watch a family movie.
I lost touch with the Friday themes until the Mrs. and I married. Over the past 18 years, it’s become a staple in our relationship. After a long week, we look forward to that time together. No cooking for her on that night! Tonight, it was our favorite little Pho’ soup place and a walk downtown where I snapped the shot today.
It may be a small tradition, but knowing we have that time together, for just us, helps keep that flame going. It doesn’t have to be anything special. In fact, it’s usually dinner at the local Pei Wei and a DVD, but, we know it’s our time. I know, it’s hard for some families with kids to do, but it’s so important they try.
I’ve seen couples grow apart over time and they didn’t even realize it. Work, kids, family issues, money, and all sorts of other things come between that time together that they started their relationship with. Even for those who do make the time, other things can get in the way like cell phones. I can’t tell you how many times, even tonight while walking around downtown, I see couples sitting together not talking because they’re glued to their phones checking something posted on Facebook.
The Mrs. and I have struggled with the distractions too but have made a commitment to put the phones away (well, after checking-in or something silly) so we can focus on that time together. It’s not always easy, but it has become so important to us both.
If I could encourage any couple who may be struggling tonight, it would be to work on getting that date night back again. Make it a tradition and don’t let anything get in the way. If you can’t make it on Friday, then make up for it Saturday, just don’t get out of the commitment to keep having that time. Also, commit to putting the phones away and talking. A little hand holding helps too…
I’m off to enjoy the rest of our date night with the Mrs. by watching a show together and relaxing. Wishing you all a great week-end and wishing you all a great time with that one you love.