Loneliness... A subject that many times we would rather deal with alone. Ironic isn't it. The one subject that we could quickly get help with by sharing is the one subject we would rather keep to ourselves. Instead, we walk through life grasping at things to fill the void and hope someone notices.
Ever since I can remember I've been independent and a bit stubborn (although would never admit it until later in life..). I look back now and can see some of the reasons for that. But, suffice to say, it has led to times when I have tried to do things on my own to a fault leaving myself feeling both like a failure and alone. Sure, there have always been people in my life but being willing to rely on them or need them has been a challenge for me. Maybe it's a fear of commitment or a fear of rejection. Maybe it's a need to prove something to myself and to others. Maybe I just don't want to inconvenience anyone. I'm learning every day that I'm not alone and others can benefit from me too.
It's crazy that our nation in particular suffers from more loneliness today than ever before when communication is at our fingertips. No need to jump on a soapbox, but just going out to eat or walking down the street these days at any a given time you will see people more concerned about their phone relationship than the people around them. Social media and technology has done more to make us less social in some ways.
I give the Mrs a great deal of credit for the way she is able to draw people out of their shell and bring light to them in the smallest of ways. Whether it's just asking them questions about their day, bringing them a meal when they've been sitting alone all day in their home, or saying hello to the stranger who is way on the other side of the street. She's a gem and has brought light to many people because her willingness to be friendly. And, she has helped bring healing to my heart teaching me to trust and let go again.
The pain of loneliness can be great, but, even greater is the joy of love. The sense that someone cares when we've felt all alone. Even if it's a stranger who does an act of kindness or a smile from a friend. One thing I've learned is that we can't make it alone. We can't isolate ourselves as much as it hurts sometimes to get into the mix with people. It doesn't mean that we should expect ourselves to be social bunnies, but taking those 'baby steps' to reach out and find someone to talk to, could be the start of a life long friendship that was just waiting to happen.
While I'm writing this I feel there is someone who is going to read this who struggles with loneliness but is too afraid to tell anyone. Sitting alone waiting, hoping for someone to reach out to you. The fact that you're reading this is a great start. The most important thing I could say to you is that there really are people out there who do care. God can bring them into your life. He truly is with us always but sometimes, we need a human to talk to, cry with, laugh with, or just share life with. One of those people is here. I may not be able to see you, hear you, or know you, but know that I'm praying that everyone who reads this today will be filled with a sense of God's love for them. I want you know that you're loved and never alone..
Blessings my friends,